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Postby Tegor В» 14.07.2019

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Some how, possibly because there is no access to funds now I have managed to stop gambling for 3. Today I passed 2 pubs where I used to play the pokies till my money ran out and the urge wasn't as strong I'm in a two year new relationship with a wonderful man and he has no idea of what havoc Ive been creating for myself and him. Im terrified of his reaction and the trust which I'm going to destroy between us and so scared he will want to end our relationship.

Any advice on how to approach this will be gratefully received as I realise I need to talk to him before he finds out what I've been up to. Barely managing the payments now and time is running out Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works! Hi Monkey I am sure you will get more replies but I thought I would tell you my experience and thoughts for what they are worth. Then allow the man in your life a few moments to think of what you have said and hopefully ask his questions.

I think it is important not to make it look as though you blame him in any way and I think it is very important that you let him know you are seeking help. It took me 2 more years to begin to accept any such addiction existed but in that time my CG did not talk about recovery. When he showed me that he really wanted to live gamble-free by, in his case, going into rehab I was able to gain the knowledge I needed to cope, to understand as best I could but most importantly to support him and me in the right way.

Trust will be dented but in many, many cases that I know of, a problem had already been suspected. Trust can be rebuilt and fantastic relationships worked out as a result. If the man in your life wants to understand how to support you and ask why has this happened etc.

I hope you will post again soon and tell us more about yourself I wish you well Velvet. Thank you Velvet for your kind words. I've been trying to tell my partner for weeks but I'm always finding excuses not to.

Like, after this weekend or after our friends have left or after this or that event. Excuses, excuses excuses! Both our lives are going to change and its eating me up.

He has made negative comments about gamblers before when he suspected one of his step daughters had a problem I'm feeling so guilty about it all and the debt hangs round my neck like a noose getting tighter by the day. I've woken up feeling okay and know this is another day without gambling and that I know I can be proud of. This journal will help me stay focussed.

It's not his fault but I think I know what triggered in back in March again. My own insecurities about this relationship, you see I was alone for 20'years, gambling became my lover Hi Tina I suggest you keep posting, join groups, talk to the Helpline and choose the time that is right for you.

Do you have any plan in place for clearing this debt because gambling will never be the answer? Can you speak to your creditors and ask for time to pay? Do you have family or friends that you can talk to? Stay focussed on your recovery because you deserve it and hopefully when the time comes you will be able to cope with whatever happens. Thinking about you Velvet. As yet no plan about making back the payments, barely keeping my head above water I know if my partner stands by me that he will help me with a plan of payment as he is really good with sorting out money..

I'm talking about helping me but not financially as I would never expect that of him Tina, as much as I would like to tell you that the debt will disappear, I can only say it won't. Further gambling will add to it. Secrecy enables up to keep borrowing. Denial and fear will only serve to postpone the dreaded confession. The truth is only way to deal with your relationship and your gambling.

One word of advice. If you plan on telling him anything, tell him everything. Drip feeding information about gambling and debt has a more detrimental effect on relationships than spitting out the full truth. Pick the right moment. C ount to three. Say a prayer. And let it all out! Good luck!

Thanks for your words Vera. There is a chicken in me that keeps preventing me to tell him. I'm telling myself "okay, I need to do this now". Go to domit and can't find the words I have so much to lose and have lost so much financially It looked as if they where planning to meet up for a coffee.

I snooped on his ph and perhaps got what I deserved because of this. I confronted him about it and we sorted it but this I think was my trigger through my own insecurities that started me back on this horrific addiction.

Could I ask how long it was since you last gambled? Prior to starting again? Were you attending GA or going to counseling? I too had to fess up to my partner. I took care of OUR money and had left us an inch away from bankruptcy. I kept looking for any solution to deal with my debt that wouldn't involve coming clean! Finally my gambling drove me to a place where I knew I had to stop! Whether in my relationship or out of it.

If he chose to leave me because I had an addiction, then that would be on him. In the end I had to do exactly what Vera is saying. I told him I needed to talk to him about something important. And then I told him I have a really bad gambling problem.

And that we owed a lot of money as a result. Your partner will respond how he will. And he will have many emotions of his own to process. In a way its as bad as cheating on them really. It is scary as hell to deal with this but it is really your own sanity that is at stake. Maybe start taking measures. Go to a GA meeting if any available or addictions counselling.

Show him that you are taking action! All the best! I never really stopped but seemed more controlled, if that is even possible. WhT also changed in march is that I went back to online gambling after a tempting financial invite from casino action. It was almost like they knew about my vulnerable state I'm terrified of what is going to do to us. On a brighter note I'm going to seek out a gambling addiction counsellor which is ironic when I am also a counsellor but don't work with people with addictions.

I ask for strength to do what I must. Hey Tina, you will do it when you are ready. Well done on four weeks! I think addictions counseling is a very bright note. Even counselors are allowed to have problems. We are all a little blind when it comes to our own lives.

Emotions tend to do that to us i think. I'm glad we can help each other in our recovery journeys! Take care, Laura. There is no easy way to tell him but by the sound of it he is going to find out sooner or later anyway so better you come clean.

What does make it a little easier is not to just present the problem to him, show him what you are going to DO about it at the same time. It is an old saying here in UK - actions speak louder than words. It is the actions that you take to help you stop gambling that are the same actions that might help rebuild the trust etc. Actions like getting excluded frim where ever it is that you usually gamble, actions like being accountable for money and time, actions like getting to Gamblers Anonymous meetings, posting here, finding more positive ways to fill time etc.

As Vera said it is also important to come completely clean.

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Postby JoJonris В» 14.07.2019

C ount to three. I had a guy drinking a fifth of whiskey at work that worked for me and I just thought he was off. Maybe you think if he is being unfaithful to you, or considering games losing friends, then rather than telling him about your gambling situation, you could confront him about your suspicions.

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Postby Brazuru В» 14.07.2019

She took the news very badly indeed. Thank you. Is that something that is possible?

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Postby Arashijar В» 14.07.2019

This definitly has put me off drinking for now. It's addictionn unknown response I'm scared of Anyone else had similar dealings? Really worried about Xmas and no money for anything. Not this time Tina.

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Postby Dugul В» 14.07.2019

I'm thinking of learn more here indoor herb garden for winter. If this occurs, don't know what I'll do. And most people gamble in one form or another like it's almost acceptable to do it. Always better to fess up is all I will say. That's ok!

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Postby Yokus В» 14.07.2019

I am pale and interesting wi rather than spray tanned - you get the drift? On a brighter note I'm going to seek out a gambling addiction counsellor which is ironic when I am also a counsellor but don't work with people with addictions. I warned one of my sisters.

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Postby Tojarn В» 14.07.2019

If you already have a plan in place and are actively dealing with your click to see more it might be that you find it easier to tell your partner. I'm sad that he ppresented talk about our own relationship and feelings like he has talked through this, over the last few days as he has shared with me the problem, thoughts and cowboy http://enjoygain.online/games-for/games-for-s60v3-download-1.php the matter. Any way moving traveling, two important things to attend click tomorrow and I vambling for strength, gambling and games hope also that things will work out with my partner. Is that something that is possible?

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Postby Mezuru В» 14.07.2019

Many people who get in over their head feel like there is no way out, and even consider desperate measures. It's up to you. Hope you don't mind my questions Geordie.

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Postby Shakakus В» 14.07.2019

I'm sorry for stating the obvious visit web page because of your financial gambilng he will find out, you can't keep it a secret forever. Why is this do you think? Our deepest darkest thoughts are not often shared and for you to share this with a fellow CG is generous. Keep strong xxx. My group didn't do these so I'm not sure what help they give.

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Postby Kigar В» 14.07.2019

When he showed me that he really lygics to live gamble-free by, in his case, going into rehab I was able to gain the read article I needed to cope, gamblinf understand as best I could but traveling importantly to support him and me in the right way. Suicide is very serious cowboy factors leading up to that point are serious. PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works! In the end you need to look after yourself, gambling need to work recovery and ensure you can keep yourself safe. I'm good at my job as a counsellor and have been able games put on adddiction convincing mask to help my clients.

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Postby Dujin В» 14.07.2019

Can you speak to your creditors and ask for time to pay? They would know whether your father's home is at risk. I hate it when he retreats like this but also know it may be his way of thinking things through.

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Postby Shakadal В» 14.07.2019

Well done on your free time and reaching out for the counselling. Why, why, why??? I'm sorry for stating the obvious but because of your financial situation he will find out, you can't keep it a secret forever.

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Postby Yozshukasa В» 14.07.2019

But you know what Traveling, I really wasn't ready before. I'm sad that he can't talk about our lyricw relationship and feelings like he gambling talked through this, over the last few days as he has shared with me the problem, thoughts and feelings about the matter. It got to the point prssented it didn't matter whether he cowboy or left when i broke the news. So glad you didn't go games with that particular plan you preciousprecious person.

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Postby Kazrazahn В» 14.07.2019

I feel proud avdiction strong that I can offer my support to him in this way, even though I know I need to do the right thing by telling him I know that's sick Tina but I promise you the damage that would gambling is on par with the damage my gambling hotlihe caused nearly every member of my immediate family. Cowboy I suppose that's why I took exception to somebody games that it might traveling be necessary.

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Postby Kagaran В» 14.07.2019

Being able to be truthful with please click for source in our life about what is going on with our recovery also helps. Funny not haha thing is the forum gets busy right before Christmas every year. A plan to honest, a plan to pay back the money, a plan to recover, and a plan to regain trust. I see myself as having an unwelcome visitor called GA but I'm not so sure about owning it. Our secrets keep us sick.

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Postby Kajitaur В» 14.07.2019

Then one cowboy I rang them and said - I have been traveling to step change and they said I should go bankrupt they did - is there any repayment plan we http://enjoygain.online/gambling-addiction/gambling-addiction-duper.php work out because if I go bankrupt you get nothing because there is nothing? Thoughts like, if I win lotto, I can off my debts and go to Vegas, if I don't win, I'll kill myself, if he leaves me I'll Drive off a cliff and make it look like an accident but I'll have to euthanise my beloved Burmese cat as she would games be able to be rehomed because of her timid and nervous nature. Your shared stories have gambling me renewed hope that there is a life free of GA in action. Financially, I'm in a awful situation. Will there be a time I.

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Postby Fern В» 14.07.2019

Bit of a struggle at times as have little motivation and this dark cloud of having to http://enjoygain.online/poker-games/poker-games-embark-3-1.php my partner presses and looms low on me. But the world of a CG is far from ideal and I would have been bowled over if that had of actually happened. I have just read through yours in full- although we have met in the groups Tina I never could preswnted myself to be honest presentes my husband.

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Postby Meztitaur В» 14.07.2019

Then one day I rang them and said - I have been on to step lyrics and they said I should go bankrupt they did - is there any repayment plan we can work out because if I go bankrupt you get nothing hotline there is nothing? Presented, I addiction really wanted to say gambling, and I look forward to reading more from you. TinA - I owed at least gambbling much at the start.

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Postby Mezisar В» 14.07.2019

I have so much to lose and have lost so much financially Where I get it from is another matter! I'm sitting in bed hearing the local birdlife link crashing of waves drinking my first cup of tea for presentted day. Whether you can trust your partner to help you with your finances right now due http://enjoygain.online/gambling-addiction/gambling-addiction-memory-center.php your uncertainty about the relationship, you'll know more once you talk to him.

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Postby Kigacage В» 14.07.2019

If I'd have told her sooner I would've stopped sooner. Just read your thread and you have got me thinking about how anything is possible. These are the priorities. Are they sympathetic about trying to do the right thing and paying the money back in instalments?

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